BDSM is usually linked to kinky, rough sex. However, A soft aspect of BDSM can be an excellent addition to your sex life; whatever your level of kink, light bondage can be a satisfying element of passionate sex. If you've never tried soft BDSM, it might be time to experience the pleasures of being erotically restrained.
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What is Soft BDSM?
Soft BDSM is simple erotic restraint. It doesn't require crazy ropes, intricate knots, or particularly acrobatic positions. It's as simple as getting comfortable in bed, letting your partner restrain your wrists, and then relaxing while they pleasure you.
It can be as simple as a blindfold or hand and leg restraints. It can also include collars and a variety of sex toys to turn you on while playing, such as butt plugs, clitoral vibrators, whips, and massage oils.
For those who like to be in control, soft BDSM could mean making your partner beg for orgasm or perform tasks to "earn" physical intimacy.
Soft BDSM is your invitation to fully relax and receive erotic stimulation, an escape that many women who like Bondage need in their busy schedules.
How to Practice Soft BDSM?
Soft BDSM Start with Communication and Research
You should never enter into a sexual relationship or use BDSM techniques on your partner without their full knowledge and consent. If your partner doesn't want anything to do with the pain, the loss of control, or the sense of helplessness, you must respect their decision.
Before taking any action, start by discussing BDSM with one another. Then, make a list of some of the things that you can do to enhance your experience lightly. This way, you can genuinely learn about yourself, your partner, the things you like and don't like, as well as your specific pain limits and other desires,
Establishing a safe word is a great way to make sure you both know to pull back immediately if things get too intense.
Hair Pulling
Hair pulling is an excellent way to begin kink play. It's simple, doesn't call for any toys, and you can make it as gentle or rough as you like. Like every other lite BDSM play, a conversation must occur before performing this. Don't just jump in and grab someone by the hair. Before taking action, use a "yes, no, maybe" list to ensure you and your partner are on the same page.
Light Spanking
Spanking is undoubtedly a popular, sexy bondage fantasy. This kinky idea is that some find spanking incredibly sexy and arousing, while others don't enjoy it. You can make your partner cry with pleasure and pain at the same time. Starting with light spanking is a good idea, with the option to increase it gradually. Begin with your hands, then add toys as you and your partner(s) gain experience.
Dirty Talk
Like most forms of dominance, gentle BDSM gives you lots of chances to engage in talk dirty. But how do you speak to show your caring while avoiding humiliating words or phrases?
Tell your partner how much you like them and how attractive they are. Praise his qualities or abilities. When he completes a task you gave him or gives you pleasure, compliment him on a job well done.
Toyless Sensation
Before adding more specific BDSM toys, a hands-on approach is ideal for getting comfortable. There are many ways to provide sensations in line with BDSM that can only be done with your hands, and this helps to maintain the level of intimacy that you might be used to so that you can let go comfortably with experience.
As you and your partner decide on reasonable pain limits, start with a light hand spanking of the butt and work your way up.
The best beginner introductions to light BDSM for a dominant partner to try out on a new submissive without crossing any lines involve a very subtle smacking of the face and a light insertion of your fingers into the mouth. While doing this, a small bite on the ear will go a long way in terms of a turn-on.
Waxplay
Another alternative is warm wax. But you don't want to go too far because gentleness is the key. Stay with low-temperature melting soft waxes like coconut oil. Hold the wax higher above your partner to allow it to cool. Then, if it's a massage candle, you can massage your partner.
Handcuffs.
The beautiful thing about handcuffs and soft BDSM is that you can start exploring a more submissive state without fear of pain because handcuffs don't usually hurt unless you turn them too tightly. This encourages you to let go of reality and give your partner total control, which is why we all love soft BDSM.
You can tie your partner's hands onto the bed frame. The key in this situation is to start by asserting your control as a dominant and introducing the concept of letting the other partner take control of your experience.
What is Bondage?
The B in BDSM involves consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for sexual pleasure. A rope can be used for suspension or restraint. You could also use something simple, like a bondage scarf or a necktie.
One of the fundamental precepts of BDSM is Bondage. Although it may appear to be just a simple sex kink, it involves much more than tying someone up with rope or being tied. Bondage provides genuine physical and emotional satisfaction.
BDSM Limits: Difference Between Soft and Hard Limits
Limits are a subject that is likely to arise in any Dom/sub relationship or contract negotiation. It's advisable to have your limits to be ready to act in either a dominant or submissive capacity. But what exactly distinguishes hard limits from soft limits?
Limits can be categorized into two main groups: soft and hard limits, depending on their different natures and how the Bondage partners define them. With permission, soft limits can be experimented with since BDSM is about stepping outside your comfort zone. Hard limits, however, are those that cannot be negotiated.
Examples of Soft Limits
A soft limit is something your dominant can persuade you to do even though it's not something you enjoy or would typically do. You might feel that the activity is too risky for you to engage alone unless you're with someone who has demonstrated expertise in that area or someone you deeply trust. It might be something that both fascinates and terrifies you or something you'd only think about doing with someone you deeply trust
Here are a few examples of soft limits:
ü Spanking
ü Flogging
ü Blindfolding
ü Gagging
ü Wax play
ü But Plugs
ü Oral sex
ü Swallowing semen
ü Nipple clamps
ü Bondage with tapes
Another soft limit is the sub's tolerance for experiencing pain, which can gradually increase with consent. Permanent scars or marks may not be acceptable, but minor bruising might be. Always go over the acceptable forms of pain, punishments, and discipline, as well as the intensity of each.
Hard Limits
A hard limit is a limit that is established before BDSM play and cannot be changed. A hard limit is something that one partner physically, emotionally, or for any other reason cannot or will not do.
Examples:
ü Needles
ü suspension Bondage
ü Whipping/Caning
ü fire play
ü Blood/urine/feces
ü Choking
ü Anal sex
ü Playing with electricity
ü Fisting
Whether you and your partner are seasoned Bondage pros or just beginning your journey toward adventures in the bedroom, there are probably light BDSM ideas that match your experience level.